A question about gratuities...

[cannon_fodder]

I only tip car hops if they are on roller skates. []

[carltonplace]

If your service sucks it is more appropriate to tell the manager than to with hold the tip. Not tipping makes you look like the bad guy and the server learns nothing, but they think you are a cheapskate. If you don't feel like telling the manager leave a note that explains why you chose not to tip. In either case, make your complaints very specific: "You did not smile", "you were slow returning to take our order" "you never refilled our drinks nor asked us how the food was", "you poured coffee on me causing 2nd degree burns and then kissed my boo-boo".   Be cognizant of how busy they are and how many tables they are tending.